Can you find your hopes in 2 weeks?
As I continue to read this book called: Everything is F*cked by Mark Manson , things have get more complicated and I beckoned that this book is a heavy reading. It’s a book you don’t read for fun, it’s a book you read to take control of your life and get rid of the illusion of self-control and build hope.
And hope isn’t for everyone, people who said they need to find their purpose and then sell everything and left their hometown to discover new cultures; those people knew what’s their life purpose but to feel in the depth of the purposes, they need to ‘jump’ into the uncomfortable zone and see how they react to the ‘scariest’ uncommon place they never been. They went to a foreign country and speak only ‘Ola!’, they walk with big backpacks and tried every sign/body language to communicate with the locals to get to their destinations.
I am a Muslim and this book is written by a Texan Christian. In my honest opinion, this book ain’t for somebody who has doubt in their faith because this book somewhat questioned your faith. There’s a list of guides on how to build hope. It made me think but it also brought in worries about who read this book. Mark uses religions and ideologies to explain hope, and I’m not denying what he said, but I feel like this topic isn’t for Muslims who do not have firm faith in Islam. Before you go against me, let me explain and do read further.
Anyway, if you haven’t read another book by Mark Manson: The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, I highly suggest you read this book first to get familiar with his writing on a lighter topic. (You bet not giving a f*ck is easier than holding onto hope).
Can you find your hopes in 2 weeks?
Two weeks reading this book, I assured myself to take a break between the chapters to comprehend what I read. The words used in the book is mildly high vocabulary and I understand that it tries to explain how hope works.
Instead of focusing of the hope itself, Mark approached the topic from the backyard. He baited you to read further down the history Nietzsche and women’s liberation. He teach you how to create your own ideology and religion and how to use hope to liberate your desires.
So, after two weeks I read this book, all that I say is that you can build hope and hope can build you. But here’s the catch…
You need to face the uncomfortable first.
How do you lose hope at the first place? You ask.
When you value something, you have something to lose. The more values you have, the more you have to lose. It’s like having a house, a car or a child; when you decide to buy a house, you did all the researches all the options have their pros and cons, and the choice you’ve made — you wished (read: hope) it’s the right decision.
And having a child, it starts from having a baby. You hope they grow up healthy and nobody take them away from you as you nurture them in your care.
But life has it owns surprises, anything can happen and like those house, car and kid, anything can happen to your hope. What we have are somehow aren’t fully ours.
You cannot control how things went, but you can control your attitude towards everything that happens to you. It starts with your own experience in losing something or someone beloved to you. Through the coping moments, that’s how you find hope.
Like fishing, finding hope takes patience and practices. With time you’ll find your way to believe that hope is there, somewhere. You just have to believe that tomorrow will be a better day. And if not tomorrow, maybe the day after tomorrow and so on.
